Dec 01
How to be happier
Written by Suet: happiness, make a difference, practice, sue 5 Comments
Here is an exercise that can help you be happier.
When you speak, notice how much of what you say is an attack. You might be attacking someone, something, or yourself.
Many questions are attacks. Especially those question/statements that begin “I thought you…” like “I thought you said you were going to try to be on time?”
So just notice your attack speech. You might be shocked at how much of what you say is an attack. I know I was!
Then, slowly, being kind to yourself, try to reduce the number of attacks. Good luck! Let me know what happens!
December 1st, 2007 at 2:48 am
Very true. Thanks for the reminder.
December 1st, 2007 at 7:05 am
My biggest problem is over-analyzing and second guessing. As careful as you try to be, there’s always the risk that someone could read anything other than the most innocuous statement as a personal attack. I know. I’ve had that happen. And I reply the scene over in my head thinking “What should I have done/said differently?”
As cheesy as it sounds, I picked up some really good advice via a “life coach” on some tv program the other day: you can’t control how others perceive you, only how you’re presented,
December 1st, 2007 at 11:42 am
Kathy – good point. But what I am talking about as actually attacking someone or putting them down, even in subtle ways. And if you stop to notice, you will KNOW that you are doing it. But you’re absolutely right that sometimes others will feel attacked even when there is no ill will in your words.
December 3rd, 2007 at 9:24 am
Oh, I needed this reminder.
September 12th, 2010 at 7:39 am
i had a mid-life crisis and what i needed was a life coach””